How can I learn to drink properly when I binge drink?

Both parents were alcoholics. I don't have any friends to hang out with so when I go out and get really drunk and feel like a make a fool out of myself. I used to live in a large city and my drunken behavior was normal, but now I live in a very small town and people think I'm some kind of wild woman.. I don't know what to do. Many of my so called buddies won't hang out with me because I get too rowdy, but I don't know how to control my alcohol. The worst part is I bartend and these makes it hard cause all the people I know are from the bar.